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On the flip side of being a perfectionist / control freak / micromanager

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04 May 2022

I usually talk about you, as the leader. Today I want to focus on you, as the team member, who has to deal with a boss who may be a bit of a control freak!

Dealing with A Micromanaging Boss
 
The reality is - It’s early on Monday morning and you are dreading going into work. You know that your boss will be hovering around your desk ready to start asking questions about where you are up to with certain tasks.
 
You used to love your job until your old boss moved to a new more senior role and this boss was appointed. You’ve gone from being a trusted colleague able to get on with your work, to someone who is checked in on, your work scrutinised, and being told how to do the things that you’ve been doing quite well for a long time.
 
Being micromanaged is exhausting, stressful and demoralising. At it’s worse it is verging on (if not being) bullying behaviour.
 
Many years ago, I watched my boss become the person being micromanaged when her new boss started. All my boss’s peers were overwhelmed with this person’s micromanaging behaviour.
 
Credit goes to my boss, for doing something about this and they ended up being great friends.
 
Signs you are being micromanaged
 
Your boss is involved in absolutely everything that you and the team are working on. They are a perfectionist and believe that there is a right way and a wrong way of doing everything. Your way is wrong, and their way is right. Your boss goes to all the same meetings as you, even though the team is well represented. In those meetings, they keep clarifying the meaning of what you are presenting, or choose to hold the floor, without letting you get a look in.You cannot approach other areas, without first letting your boss know. And they prevent you from speaking with stakeholders from outside the organisation. Which means everything is slowed down while waiting for their approval to proceed.They can’t let go and need to stay across everything down to the smallest detail (even down to font types and sizes you use!)

What’s going on for them?

The problem is your boss may not be aware they are micromanaging. If they are a perfectionist and worried about failing, they will resort to micromanaging behaviour. They may be under considerable pressure to deliver or feel they are. Operating under a cloud of fear can be debilitating. If you can figure out why they are behaving like this, means you can find ways to change how you respond to it.
 
Building trust and upfront agreement

My boss spent time with her new boss to find out more about their expectations. She focussed on building trust. She embraced the templates and details her boss was asking for. She focused on delivering in a way that didn’t increase her boss’s stress levels. Even though at times she felt she was going way beyond where she should reasonably be expected to go in terms of the detail.
 
We were encouraged to go with the flow. My boss’s mantra was ‘short term pain for long term gain’. We focused on how we could help and started to ask clarifying questions to make sure we understood what was required and why. Setting agreements in place around expected standards and using the templates her boss required started to create trust.
 
Communicate and give feedback

We kept her in the loop. Constant communication – in detail, provided a sense of assurance that we knew what we were doing. With the trust we were all starting to create, meant my boss was able to eventually provide feedback that this level of detail was exhausting, not necessary for the work being delivered and that their boss had to level up and start operating as the senior leader they were being paid to be. Which surprisingly was taken on board and over time the micromanaging diminished.
 
This isn’t a quick fix. It takes time and effort.
 
Do

• Build trust
• Understand what is going on for them
• Over-communicate
• Provide regular updates

Don’t

• Tell them to stop being a micromanager
• Go around their back
• Speak badly about them to others

While this story has a happy ending, not all efforts will work with other micromanagers. It may be that if you are being micromanaged and have tried the steps mentioned above and others and they didn’t work you may well need to look for a new role (and boss) that you know you can enjoy.
 
Life is too short to spend it in a role you don’t enjoy.

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