Maree's Blog

We are often told to create short term (which can be today or for this week), medium term (which can be for this month or this year), and long term goals (which can be this year or over the next 15 years). I’ve discovered that writing down goals isn't really the answer for me. I've discovered that I need to create outcomes, not goals. When we... Read more...

I’ve spoken about behavioural flexibility before and I’ve realised over the last few weeks how essential it is to dealing with what life throws at us. I define behavioural flexibility as being able to adapt to any given situation by having a range of responses, rather than the same habitual and therefore limiting response, so we respond to each... Read more...

Did you know that biochemical reactions are triggered at every level of our bodies when we make contact with other people? There are chemical responses to any interaction we have and we pick up electrical signals from others as well. At the moment of contact there is an energy exchange; on top of which we layer our old memories about the... Read more...

Building awareness of what triggers us and makes us feel bad (maybe something someone has said), and what we may not even be aware of (blind spots) that triggers others, helps us to build empathy and compassion for others. Back in April this year I was working with a group of women and talking to them about communicating... Read more...

The meaning of my message is what you understand, not what I think I’m saying. Diving into the meaning of words allows us to uncover what is being deleted, generalised or distorted by our unique individual filters. What is going on inside our heads largely determines our reality. When we are interacting and communicating with others the likelihood that our... Read more...

Everyone holds a different picture or shape of something in their head. To communicate effectively, the trick is to work out what that shape is for someone else. It’s like an iceberg where only 1/8^th of the iceberg is above the waterline. What we see of someone is only 1/8^th of what is going on internally for them.  To find that picture or shape, means... Read more...

Our ability to see, hear, feel, smell, taste and touch enriches our experience and can turn reaching our goals from a dream to reality. Our internal representation is a way of codifying our experience.  This inner experience we have at any given moment, relates to five categories of sensory experience: the visual sense (seeing), the auditory sense... Read more...

December is a time, as the year draws to a close, to reflect on what 2018 has meant to me. January is then a time to start planning for the year ahead. I have worked with many wonderful people and organisations this year and for those of you who have come to my talks, workshops, coaching or knowledge sessions - THANK YOU for playing along. For any... Read more...